The smile lighting up the face of your baby when she looks up at your face, the confidence on a toddler's face when she looks up at you before crossing that developmental milestone and the happy baby who is so thankful to your uncountable efforts of singing, dancing, cooing, placating, keeping her dry, warm and well fed- are all what make every bit of agonizing efforts and sometimes inhumane sacrifices worth every penny!
I am neither idealizing motherhood nor preaching a philosophy in developing self-confidence. I am only stating what is obvious. A stay at home mom should not let someone else's jaded feelings affect her. She is doing the most important job in the world, even if she is not being paid for it. Raising a child into a good human being, a successful professional and an emotionally stable person will keep a mom's hands full for a lifetime.
They say that you know you are a stay at home mom if you are the last one to go to bed and the first one to get up! The society has unfortunately moulded into a form today where a woman who stays awake through the day, works 24 *7 hours a week without any holidays or incentives, is alert always looking out for her children, anticipating their needs, is a teacher, guide and friend to them; is in a quest of finding self-worth!
Research has reported that stay at home moms are at a greater risk of suffering depression. A major cause of this is that moms who are not going to work out lead a monotonous schedule day by day and do not get time to do things just for themselves or spend some quality 'ME ' time!
All stay at home moms can spice up their lives and do things which will make them feel worthy, useful and special. I am a stay at home mom myself and can share my experiences with all the new mothers and mothers to be.
- Do not UNDERESTIMATE yourself. You are living by example. It is not possible for everyone to give up their life for raising a child.
- Develop a hobby if you don't have one already. Start taking out time weekly for your hobbies. Spend some time honing your creative side and skills. Pursuing your creativity not only gives you self-confidence but self-satisfaction as well.
- Take out time for your girlfriends. Leave the baby or children with your husband or parents and spend time gossiping with your friends, indulge in shopping for yourself, watch a movie and avoid discussing children, maid or laundry! Believe me you will return home rejuvenated and replenished.
- Spend quality time with your husband. An understanding and caring life partner makes your life worth while. Go on a romantic date with your husband and give yourself a special evening out.
- Become a member of a social service organisation. Helping out orphans, helping the residents of an old age home or joining a literacy campaign will not only help you in finding self worth but you will play an important role in someone's life as well.
So, moms, next time someone asks you, A FULLTIME MOM, what do you do? Simply answer 'EVERYTHING.'