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It's New Year. Time to celebrate, time to kick start a fresh year but what is more essential is to resolve to do something better in that year. From here steps in the concept of New Year resolutions.

A resolution is a promise from one to one's own self and it is not meant to be broken. Some people resolve to lose weight, some to change their lifestyle, quit smoking and the like. But my point is that significant changes in one's attitude must be incorporated in one's set of resolutions.

Politeness for starters, most people forget the three golden words taught to them in kindergarten, 'please', 'sorry', and 'thank you'. Blame it on texting, hurry or madness this courtesy-starved generation is heading towards a tradition of rude and to the point mode of talking. Magnanimity, it is a universal fact that happiness doubles itself when shared. But the misers of the era turn a deaf ear. We all have truckloads of clothes (which we don't wear, and still keep piling stuff on) shoes and other things we find necessary. Donating what we don't use to the less privileged sections of society will not only add to our quota of blessings but also we shall earn the tag of a good human and emerge as a happier and positive person after the process. Optimism, now this is a tough one to attain. It takes a lot of time, energy and its share of conscious effort. Maintaining an affirmative stance is more important in situations of disorder, sadness and acute depression.

To achieve this one should always consider the long-term effects of a problem. A proper and well-thought out analysis can solve half of all problems a human can have. In this context, what I cannot forget to mention is one's faith in the almighty. True faith lays in the firm belief that god; the ultimate protector has a definite pre-planned plan for all his children. We humans are merely, fundamentally and invariably following his instructions. What we can do at most is pray, to make our wishes heard. This is in direct opposition with blind faith which implies accusing god for the wrongs in one's life. In the end, all will definitely be well is what we should abide by. Another virtue to absorb in our self is determination. If we are determined to reach our goals then no detractor can deter us. Belief in oneself is a crucial factor that shapes individual personality. After all, if we don't have faith in our self. Who will? To get our missions accomplished we need to have a considerably high level of self-confidence that will help us win laurels. Anger management, this applies to most of us. Hot blooded are we not? Anger can be truly recognized as the root cause of all our quarrels that transform into wars. Friends are lost, enemies accreted and family ties shattered. But who cares? We will abuse and shout at the loudest volume to say our point.

We shall not flinch unless the other person ceases to speak and eventually 'loses' the argument. Here, the tried and tested formula of counting slowly to ten works, it really does. And once you are habitual to doing it you will realize that you get angry less often and it is less intense. Punctuality is also something we can manage to perfect effectively thereby also efficiently managing time and regularity. Time, which is the greatest resource and is also greatly exploited by all can be saved. Finally a common yet undervalued resolution is adopting a hobby. It utilizes time, instead of killing it. Engages our mind productively, diverting it from television, and futile gossip sessions. And in the bargain we learn something new. Something we have always wanted to. Also, one thing we all forget to do, rather choose not to do is listening. We would much rather talk, chat, blabber for hours. Listening to other's perspectives and opinions broadens our horizon and helps us become more tolerant towards others. So you can see that this list is inexhaustible. There are so many good values to imbibe, traits to absorb and points to remember. So, include some of these and make your new year really happy.

It is New Years, 2013, and 'tis the season for resolutions. And the season for breaking them. How many people do you know that have kept a resolution past January 31? Not many, I bet. Here are 5 things you must do to make your resolutions stick more than 30 days:

1. Verbalize your goal and make a plan to achieve it. Some people confuse the desire for change with actual change. They think, "I want to... (get a gym membership, start my own business, eat less and lose weight, etc.) Just talking won't get the results you want, but it helps to verbalize your goals. Write the goal down and post it where you will see it often.

2. Make positive goals, not negative ones. Your brain responds better to positives than negatives. Focus on what you want to do rather than what you want to stop. A positive goal is "I will put all my paperwork away after I'm finished with it." A negative goal is "I won't put all my paperwork in a pile." A positive goal is "I will go to the gym twice a week." A negative goal is "I'll quit being a couch potato."

We naturally want to accomplish things, so we will do "I will" things better or more often than "I won't" things. "I will" goals give a feeling of accomplishment, whereas "I won't" goals seem to leave an empty spot in our life.

In my paperwork example, it is easier to figure out a filing system to immediately file papers, rather than figuring out what to do with that pile of papers at the end of the workday when you want to go home.

3. Visualize the end from the beginning. What will you feel like or look like when your goal is accomplished? If you are going on a diet, put a photo of the new dress or swimsuit where you will see it constantly. If you want a raise, think about being praised by the boss for your good work, or getting the "Employee of the Month" award. If you are saving money for a new gadget, get a photo of the gadget to remind yourself. If you want to go on a cruise, put a seashell on your desk. Just have something that will remind you and motivate you to complete your goal

4. Devise an easy-to-do, step-by-step plan to achieve your goal. This may seem hard at first, but do it this way: Write down your goal. Under that, write down the last thing you would do before you achieve the goal. Under that, write down the next-to-last thing you would do. Continue until you are at the point you are today, when you make the resolution.

This will give you a 'road map' of easy steps to reach your goal. When you look over the list, if you find a too-big step, break it down into smaller, more easily achieved steps. Now you have a series of easily achievable steps to reach your goal. Remember how to eat an elephant: One bite at a time! As you complete each step, it will increase your motivation ("I'm getting closer") and confidence ("I can do this!") to take the next step.

Look out for stumbling blocks in your path to your goal. If you want to lose weight, don't put ice cream in the 'fridge. If you want to impress your boss, don't gossip at the cooler. Remember to plan "I will" ideas rather than "I won't" ideas. Put low-fat yogurt in the refrigerator or bring bottled water to keep at your desk.

5. Write it down! Use feedback to your advantage. Record your progress or lack of progress in a journal or log. You may find an unexpected distraction to avoid or a great motivator to use in the future. Writing things down inevitably leads to change in the behavior you are logging.

You must be honest in your log. No 'forgetting' to document failures. Your log will initially have positive and negative entries, but later on, it will have more positive notes than negative ones. If this is not true, you need to review your plan, find out why it is not working, and modify it to overcome the obstacles.

Perhaps a temptation is too big to handle. Get an accountability partner to help you through the tough spots. Are your surrounding contributing to your negative entries? Is there a way to modify your environment, or get out of it entirely?

These steps will make your resolutions more achievable. Set the proper positive goals, rather than negative ones. Visualize the goal completed using a physical object or a photo. Devise a simple plan to reach your goal. Keep a log of your progress.

Then, when you achieve your goal, have a celebration! Make it a memorable event, so that you will remember the emotions when another challenge comes along, and you will have a head start on completing the next goal!