Listen to her. Read what she is texting you. There's nothing sexier than a guy who actually listens to a girl. Most guys get so caught up with what they plan to say to a girl. Or even how great she is. We get distracted and we forget to listen to what she's actually saying. I know that feeling. It happens to me all the time. Sometimes I feel like I need a dose of Addrerall before I listen to my girlfriend's conversations. It's almost like she keeps blabbing on and on about nothing. But if you try really, really hard, you'll find that she's actually saying something. She's usually talking about her problems or some gossip she heard about someone. Try to keep up. Even if the topic is boring. Even if you're not into drama. Fake it till you make it. Just don't let her know you're not that interested. If all else fails, try talking about something you BOTH might be interested in talking about. Like the lingerie bowl. Don't we all wish we had a girl like that?
Caring (Show Emotions)
Make sure she knows you care. Using emotional works like "CRAZY" or "UNBELIEVABLE" is a good way to show that you care about she's saying. Console her when she's feeling down. That's what separates an acquaintance from a friend and a friend from a boyfriend. The fact that you care. But you have to keep it sexy. Tell her you wish you were there to give her a "hug". This turns girls on. It lets them know that you have a heart and that you're there for them. Show them that you're that guy that can be there for them when they're sad, depressed, mad, lonely. It's things like that, that turn a friendship into something more.
Try an attractive compliment. Don't just tell her she's amazing. Chances are, she already knows that. Tell her why she's amazing. Do it in a subtle way, without actually telling her directly. A few years ago, I used to date an artist. I actually didn't know she had a hidden desire and talent to draw super heroes. She's been doing it since she was 9 years old. I found out when I texted her:
"I have a sneaking suspicion that you're an in-the-closet creative nerd. What secret talent do you possess."
It's not the easiest thing to do, but if you get it right, you're way ahead of the game. Most guys FAIL at this miserably. You can check out more examples of attractive, flirty compliments on page 119-131 of our best selling ebook and video course. Get this right and it's gonna give you an amazing edge you never thought you had.
Escalate the conversation. Make it sexy. Tease her. Some guys are afraid that teasing a girl will make her lose attraction for you. Quite the opposite. Teasing a girl creates a challenge. It makes the girl think that you're not as into her as you thought you were. It creates doubt and a little confusion. She'll be drawn to this challenge and she'll look for a way to hook you in again. That's why the text above is so perfect. It teases her in an attractive way, calling her a "creative" nerd. Whenever I send this kind of text to a girl I like I always get responses that indicate she's trying to make herself seem non-nerdy or normal. Never fails.
Take It To The Next Level
Setup a date. Make her look forward to something... with you! It's one of the best ways to turn a girl on over text. Show her you're not afraid to take things further. Show her you're gonna lead the way. Ask her out. Even if it's just for a walk in the park, a visit to the zoo or a quiet dinner. Do it.